- I was sixteen, I had lost my virginity about eight months prior to my first herpes outbreak. I was devastated I felt cheated. Like how is this fair that I have sex with one guy and contract two stds...one that would stay with me for the rest of my life. I felt disgusting. I cried and cried. It's been a year since I found out I had the virus. I am still in a relationship with the man i got it from. He had no idea. Now I don't really care. I forget about it until I have another flare up. I do get upset when Ido have an outbreak though. I get mad at my boyfriend all over again, jealous because he never gets break outs. I will need to get over that. But I'm just glad I've gotten over the biggest hump. No worries. I'm not even that embarrassed by it anymore. Hmm. Imagine that.
- —Guest Dev
- I contracted herpes after a one night stand with no protection. I was extremely intoxicated and even though that does not dignify not using a condom; I can't even believe I slept wit someone who I was not in a long term relationship with. I came home from college during winter break and had the worst fever and horrible blisters and pain on my genitalia. It lasted for about a week and the sores healed up with cream and acyclovir. I hated myself for letting this happen and hated the man who gave it to me because he also gave me genital warts. I wanted to wait till marriage and now I've shut myself off completely sexually from anyone of the opposite sex. It's been 7 months since I've been with anyone sexually and I honestly don't see myself being with anyone soon. I just wish I could take that one night back. There's no many emotions and regret. I want him to understand that he has ruined my body and made it almost impossible for me to bare children and have a happy life.
- —Guest stillsad
got it from babies father
- So about two and a half weeks ago I have sex with my babies father after almost a month. A few days later I go to pee I have this extremely pain in my vaginal area. I didn't know what was going on but this was the worst pain I ever felt in my life. So I had a doctor's appointment already set up because I'm 26 weeks pregnant. I tell my doctor that I have these painful swore on my vagina. As soon as my doctor looks down there she says its herpes. I started to cry hysterically after the words left her mouth. She prescribed me some pills to take as well as a typical ointment. Later on I ended up tell my babies father that I had an std, but never told him what it was. A couple days later after my not talking to him he tells me that I have herpes. I was so devastated that I started crying uncontrollably, because this told me that he knew he had herpes the whole time we were together and never told me. I'm more mad at the fact that he exposed my unborn children to this so selfishly. I hate hi
- —Guest twins mom
It is not the end of the world
- I'm 17 I have been very careful in relationships when it comes to sex. Including knowing the guy for atleast a year and using safe sex. All of my friends were having sex with people and they were fine. I was going through a hard time with my dad not being here for me and so I started looking for comfort in other guys. I met a guy and he made me feel special I didn't know him very well but we were going to have sex. I insisted on using a condom but he denied and I fell into pure pressure. We had sex multiple times and everything was fine. A month later I had an uncomfortable feeling down there. I went and got checked and the doctor said I had yeast she gave me medicine, and it got WORSE I broke out into sores. I saw another doctor and she told me I had herpes.My swab test came out negative.It has been a month now and I have a sore.I am assuming the test results were wrong.I am upset. But, I look at the bright side.I know that if a guy REALLY LOVES ME he won't care if I have herpes!
- —Guest ThisISHer
first outbreak doesn't heal
- First I didn't have any symptoms, I just went to the gynecoligist to do some analasys when I came back from my holiday where I had sex with a guy with whom I fell in love..I was shoked to know that I was infected with herpes 2..I don't know whether he infected me or my ex because the symptoms reviled in a month after. I didn't believe the results of herpes test but 3 weeks later the first outbreak started and it has been lasting now for 7 weeks..From all the symptoms I have something like flu, cold sores and itching. I take acyclovir but it doesn't really help me, I want to try Famvir. Herpes changed my life badly, I'm not that girl anymore that I used to be, I'm only 23.. but anyway I think that my life doesn't end because of this infection and I believe that I can overcome this disease
- —Guest Ele
best trick to relieve fire piss
- This sounds gross but it honestly works like magic. During my first outbreak, i tried everything to sooth the screaming, white hot pain that shot through every nerve in my body when i went pee. I found something that actually works better than you could ever believe, although its a bit of a process. Well, have a good supply of cloths in the bathroom while having an outbreak. When you're about to go pee, take a cloth and fold it into a thin rectangle, and press it lightly against your vagina, while leaning forward almost in skiing mode on the toilet. Now i know it will seem awkward because yes, youll be peeing on your hand. If it still stings, press a little harder with the cloth. Do NOT wipe with TP. It clumps, and the chunks will feel like razors if they get in your sores. After using the cloth, shake drops off, hobble to the sink, rinse it off THOUROUGHLY, and dab your vagina. Immediately put it in the laundry and wash your hands with soap. I hope i could help. Good luck, beautiful!
- —Guest herpestips
Keeping Faith uliveulearnumoveon
- After coming back from a weeks vacation on Tuesday, I noticed a mild burning sensation when urinating the next couple of data the little white bump got worse and the pain when urinating became excruatiating and I went to my gynecologist to get some test done and he told me it could be herpes but he would have to wait for the lab results to confirm. I did my research and all my symptoms matched Herpes simplex virus 2. I felt like a dirty slut for having to much fun on vacation, what happen on the islands stay on the islands. I'm in denali about not having it because my blood test came back negative but it had only been 4 days and it takes up to 4 months to really detect it and dee down inside I know its something and Herpes is what I think. To know that I have live with it for life is depressing and I wonder will I ever find love but at least it's not HIV and not deadly or cause health issues it's just painful right now but from research and you stories it will decrease in pain overtime
- —Guest Damaged
Wondering how this will go...
- I was diagnosed with HSV-1 shortly before my 21st birthday. I got the virus from my then boyfriend when we had oral sex. I had never seen him with a cold sore before and we always used condoms so I felt like I was being safe and cautious. The pain from my first outbreak was excruciating; I was on Tylenol 3s and couldn't walk or do anything. I cried for about a month straight and just felt so dirty and broken. I avoided relationships for about 8 months because I was scared to trust anyone or get too close to someone; mostly I was terrified of passing the virus to someone else and for them to have to go through the pain and emotional anguish that I've suffered. Finally 2.5 years later I'm dating an amazing man who I'm falling in love with and I've decided to tell him about my "dark side" tomorrow night. I'm completely terrified that he won't understand and that I'll be alone forever. On the flip side, I'm anxious to get this off my chest and see if I can be accepted, blisters and all.
- —Guest Anxious
its not the end
- I got herpes and had no idea. It isn't always detectable in men. I found out after bc someone I had been with told me she had it. I have only had two outbreaks in 3 years. The first one was the worst, but the second one lasted for a few days. It's not the end of the world, but I hope there is a cure someday. It is more of a psychological issue with the way the media and public negatively portray the disease.
- —Guest guest@
Knowledge & Faith go a long way
- Hi All, I was diagnosed with HSV over a year ago and got it through plain bad luck. I was depressed and scared, angry and feeling hopeless. I had to tell my loved one and that's scary. But the more I read up on it, the more knowledgeable on the subject I was and with that came relief and hope. I spoke to my loved one about it with facts and belief that they would understand. Faith in your loved ones goes a long way and to my relief they were perfectly ok with it. All I can say to those who need to break the news to a loved one is make sure you prepare my being knowledgeable on the subject (because once you understand it, you realise it's nothing serious and not even close to being the end of the world) and have faith that someone who really loves you will support and accept you. You'll be pleasantly surprised. Focus on being a good person and a beautiful human being as that goes much further in finding true love then not having herpes. Good luck all and remember, knowledge faith.
- —Guest Loved
Prayer really helps
- Well im 17 and on my way to being a senior in high school and I have very big dreams for the future. I contracted it from my boyfriend of 11 months. I found out I had it the day of my birthday. I went to the E.R because I was in ALOT of pain and discomfort and thats when I heard those horrible words. Of course its hard at the beginning but your life is far from over. You still have alot of life to live and its truly what you make it. Just use this time and "do you". Make sure you love yourself before trying to give that love to someone else. Your life is NOT over and I truly mean that with every fiber of my being ! Just look at it this way time heals all wounds physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Don't beat yourself up because at the end of the day all you have is yourself. You will find love, true love all you have to do is love yourself and love God and everything will fall into place. Remember to put God first with everything you do and He will guide your footsteps...
- —Guest Loving life
- I have been dating a guy for one year and we planned to live together, the other night he dropped a bomb on me and said he had Herpes!! Oh I said why did you wait one year to tell me? You didnt give me a choice. Im now waiting on my blood test and im confused and angry with him at the moment.
- —Guest Sarha
pregnant and learning more
- I'm 20weeks pregnant and have just found out my partner has herpes. He just got his test back today. About 3weeks ago he had a little blister on the head of his penis. He went to get tested and I informed my doctor of the situation. She told me to wait til he's results and inform her when his test come back. well I'm happy to say if I do or don't have it. I'll stick by my lover,friend,childs father. Research and help sets. Safety and love is the best choices for us.
- —Guest pregnant and scared
it is okay
- I found out about my hsvII on my bday in 2011. I was oblivious to my symptoms and decided to have unprotected sex with my bf. I went to see my gyno days later and within two weeks , I was diagnosed. Today, I am married to my same bf and he was not the man who gave me herpes.
- —Guest thankfully loved
HOPE with HERPES
- Life is never an easy road! I contracted herpes in 2009 because of my own stupidity; I had unprotected sex with a new and unsafe partner. Two weeks after our first encounter I fell violently ill and got my first outbreak. It has been 4 years and I am outbreak free but still emotionally hurt and scarred. Over the course of 4 years, I have dated 3 men and all but one has been accepting of my condition. I am now a year and a half into a new relationship and he continues to love me irrespective. Love is boundless, and non-judgemental; whether you are pretty ugly, fat, skinny, diseased or healthy, the RIGHT person that truly loves YOU, for YOU, will always be there because they see something far greater in you beyond herpes.
- —Guest There is hope