i never thought this would happen to me.
- I found out I had herpes a day before my birthday. Soon to be going on 1 year. Even a year later its still hard to except. I stopped dating because Im scared of admitting that I have it and then him reject me. I'm only 22 was with one guy for seven years and it popped up. Were not together anymore and now I don't know how to feel. Life goes on and I'm trying my hardest not to let it control my life.
- —Guest lonely
First Herpes Outbreak
- Well, I'm a 24 year old single mother who has finally become single after spending the last 8 years of my life in 2 (separate) relationships where I was STI free. Had an amazing week last night, really enjoying being single and ended up having a one night stand with someone. I was feeling fantastic until Sunday (three days later) that I started to feel the symptoms of what I thought was thrush. Had one small spot on my pubic area which worried me but as I shave, I thought it might be an ingrown hair and the next day, I treated myself for thrush. Well, the symptoms did not go, and 6 days later, my vagina is incredibly sore and swollen, covered in blisters that are now starting to crust over. Hoping that these will go soon, I can't walk I'm that sore! :'-( GUM clinic gave me some treatment yesterday and tested me for other STI's. Even though Herpes can be caught with the use of a condom, still use one as the chances of catching it are smaller. We didn't and now I have to live with this..
- —Guest Emma
- I just wanted to tell everyone here that there is hope. A new study has come for a cure. The idea is that you are given a drug that forces the virus out of hiding causing a full on outbreak. The you are treated with the serum that eradicates the virus all together. Animal testing has been successful but they say it could be up to 20 years from now before it is ok for human use. Lets all hope and pray that it is sooner rather than later. I would be ok with a super severe outbreak just one time to be rid of it forever. Just know that nobody here is to blame for contracting it. 50% of the population has oral herpes before adulthood and 25% of the population are carriers and about 80% of those carriers have no clue they even have it. SO don't beat yourself up. I also noticed questions of should I tell people i plan to date? Absolutely. My fiance accepted me with the virus and he has not contracted it. Also there are several dating sites for people with herpes. Find someone already infected
- —Guest Ohio
down but not out
- My boyfriend and I have been in an monogamous relationship for over a year. We've been through some UPS and downs but we never let ourselves stay mad at each other. Last Thursday while in the shower I noticed a bump on my vagina so I asked my babe to check it out. We both decided that it was an in grown hair. That same night I had a temp charting up to 103. Me being stubborn I thought I could fight it so I tried. 3 days later on my birthday I couldn't take it anymore so my bf rushed me to emergency. The admitted me right away and 2 days later diagnosed me with herpes. The doctors explained to us that it can lie dormant for years before first outbreak. Although it's scary I'm ok. My boyfriend still loves me and is still by my side as I'm laying in the hospital gown :)
- —Guest Ms.eo
- My son, dakoda, and i were infected with herpes virus in the last trimester of my pregnancy by his father. Dakoda meaning little warrior teaching me that life is something we should not take for granted. Dakoda just turned two july 11 th. I have not allowed his father around because he risked our sons life before he was even born. I dated one guy gor 6 months i told him my herpes story on iur second date. The guy was very sweet intel we started having sex he started treating me like the disease. I stopped talking to him. I have little hope in finding love along with forgiving myself for putting my sons life at risk because i trusted his father. Dakoda breaksout on his hand once a month. Sadly now i appreciate everything, everyone and every moment in eachday i live with my two young boys. I am a single mother but always stay positive
- —Guest Suexziexq
- I'm so scared that I may have HSV-2. 3 months ago I was in a sexual relationship with a man 23 years older than me. I never meant for it to happen, it just did. He has an asian girlfriend around his age and says neither he nor she has symptoms. I developed a rash on my upper inner thigh which was nonpainful and then started getting red bumps around my vulva. They were a little itchy and burned a little when my urine ran over them but not too much. They disappeared after a week without meds or anything. Now it's 3 months later and I've finally been to a gynecologist. She says that she thinks I have BV seeing as I've had discharge with an odor since the beginning. I've been on my meds and my symptoms are leaving but I still asked to be tested for everything including herpes. I get my results in 5 days and I am out of my mind with worry. He says he doesn't have it but I don't trust men to begin with. If I don't have it, no sex until marriage people. And even then I expect testing results.
- —Guest scared to death
my story and curiosity
- I was in a relationship with a mentally abusive guy for a couple months. We were very physical, and we had unprotected sex once. Me and him ended it, and a little under a year later I was in a new relationship. Me and Jim had sex a few months in, but shortly after he broke up with me. (Typical teenage boys, I am 17 myself) I was diagnosed with herpes only two weeks after the break up with Jim. Chances are it was the abusive boyfriend because me and Jim used protection - but should I have told Jim when I was diagnosed, even though it was after he harshly broke up with me and used me for sex anyways? If it was Jim, I could call him out on it, but if it wasn't - an ex-boyfriend will know I have herpes and that would be no good! But I'm also afraid he might have gotten it from me, because I hear it's possible to get it even with a condom... so should I warn him?
- —Guest guest 210
How in the hell???
- After 11 yrs of being with NOBODY I met a man and gave in. I took every precaution I could since I wasn't on birth control. He didn't even get near me without a condom on. Two weeks later, I get a horrible pain between my labia that was so bad I honestly wondered if I'd gotten a tic working out in my flower bed! The doc did an exam and a culture, but she basically told me what she believes I have. Apparently you CAN spread it, even with a condom. I had no idea he was positive. Now, the thing is - now what? Do I have to tell every man I even hope to be with that I tested positive? I'm just so confused and pissed and...UHG.
- —Guest A
- Just found out my ex-girlfriend gave me herpes. I knew she had herpes she told me before we became intimate. She has has it since she was raped at 19. In the 13 years that she has had this illness she said she had only given it to one other person. That was not long after she contracted the disease. I felt pretty safe with her. There were many things that we did not do sexually because they would have put me at higher risk. We tried to be safe. I always washed my hands right after. The problem was, she did not always know when she was having an outbreak. The whole time we dated, I never saw a sore. Shortly after we stopped seeing each other. I started developing these tiny blisters under the skin on my fingers. A few days ago I tested positive for hsv-2. I am devastated. There are so few lesbians with this disease that dating will be next to impossible. I refuse to put anyone else at risk. I have cried for days over this and the thought of being alone the rest of my life. This sucks!
- —Guest sad lesbian
- Herpes is the most common std. Many people have it & don't know they have it. I just had my first outbreak today. I went to the doctor and got a culture & blood test. But she & I know what it is. I'm not worried, scared or upset. There's a huge stigma surrounding herpes even though it's so common. I'm going to take care of myself & improve my immune system so the outbreaks will decrease over time.
- —Guest Gia
16 with herpes
- i'm sixteeen and a virgin with herpes, it sucks to suck :'(
- —Guest 16andmylifesiover
My story 12 years and going!
- When I was a little over 20 years old I made a decision in my life that would change my personal choices forever. I got married in Febuary of 2000 to my love and at the time I was a virgin. After I lost my virginity no more than a month later I and our roommate and really good friend got so sick we had thought we had come down with the flu. That was until we both felt like we were peeing glass. I went to the doctors to find out what was going on the gynocologist just looked for less then a minute and said she would say without much doubt that I had herpes but needed to check, tests came back it was herpes. 1 divorce and several partners, 1 current husband and 1 son later I can report that I have never that I am aware of ever given anyone this virus b/c I took ever messure not to. Its a pain at first I know and it will be hard but it is not the end of the world you can live with it get married have kids. I wish everyone luck and if u need to talk email@example.com. God Bless!
- —Guest kolae
Holy Fuck... I have Herpes?!
- I just found out today that I have Herpes. All it took was one night of unprotected sex... The next day, I kind of itched down there. One week later I felt like I had a really bad UTI. Two weeks later, my gyno is telling me I have Herpes. It's hard to believe, yes. It's been hard today, not to feel like a piece of shit, that there is no hope. But you know what??? You gotta keep your chin up. I hope someone reads this, and really thinks things over. It's not a death sentence. Yeah... It's gonna be awkward, gonna suck, it hurts both physically and emotionally. But don't let the viris **** define you. Don't ever, ever let it win. Never let it defeat your wit. **** live on, live life, and don't back down. You are not worthless. You are human, and amazing.
- —Guest Take A Deep Breath
- So I am back just one week from a holiday abroad with my friends. During the holiday I developed a chest infection, so I was on antibiotics. Basically... I ended up very, very drunk. I had unprotected sex with a stranger and I am now dealing with the consequences. I dread going to the toilet because it hurts so much, it's difficult to sit and even stand. I think the only time I am comfortable is when I'm in the bath with my legs open. I have burst sores everywhere down there and they rub off of each other. It just hurts so much. I'm in a lot of pain and what's worse is having to lie about it. I've avoided going out 100% apart from work, where I had to sit out for 30 minutes for crying. I haven't told anybody bar my GP and it's just difficult. I feel so horrible. Just shit. And I am keeping this to myself. I hate myself for being so stupid. Like, I deserve it. It was my fault, but I can't help but to feel fucking awful. So yes, wear protection.
- —Guest Amy-Z
- Ive receny been diagnosed with genital herpes. At first i was shocked and devastated because id never never thought it could happen to me. im 28 years old with my whole life ahead of me and dreams of giving my son a little brother or sister. when i was first diagnosed, i told my doctor of some similar symptoms i experienced a few years back and he said.it was likely that i actually jad the virus for years but it laid dormant unt my outbreak. ive taken things in stride and do not look at myself as diseased or dirty. as far as im concerned, all i have are cold sores that show up below the belt instead of on my face for the whole world to see. in the end, IM STILL ME!
- —Guest Rayne