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- No matter what people say it ruins a persons life. It's degrading and hopeless. The only hope is a cure.
- —Guest Private
Realistic attitude brings much relief
- I have just been diagnosed with HSV 2. Bummer. Oh well, in the long run, it's not a big deal in the same way cancer, or HIV, is. Not at all. If I do the proper treatment and maintenance, it is nothing more than a mere inconvenience, if I start to notice an outbreak that is. What if I do? Being prepared with the proper medication at all times should prevent the outbreak from being widespread and painful and nothing is lost but a few extra minutes taken out of a day, it's worth it for your's and other's health. I brush, floss and rinse to prevent canker sores in the mouth, and I bathe, check, and take my meds to prevent outbreaks. A lot of this is general health and hygiene upkeep that everyone should do. I have herpes. But not everyone needs to know. Many of my good friends may have it and simply prefer not to share that information. There's no way I'm alone out here even among my closest friends and family. And I'll respect their privacy. 18? 55? You'll be fine and normal, promise ;)
- —Guest Calm dude
i have herpes
- but I deal with don't always have an outbreak , I have pills for treatment ,when it does happen but everyone has the herpes viris its dorment in our bodies, till stress brings it out ,
- —Guest rose russell
scared of sex as herpes is every where
- had sex once and i was scared like hell , went tor 3 blood test all came back negative, i don't have herpes, but at times i feel i do as i'm just scared to date , i don't want to catch any thing, it's the fear that i will, finding some one/people you can trust is hard, i do feel sorry for people who have ot, and i think is hard on those who don't because when you date some one are they hinding some and are they just going to give you a std just to get back at the world. honesty is the best policy it's a shame we all can't live by this. As mensioned when i had my blood test i was scared and had sleepless nights and so on, i dont have an STD, but i know what the pain and the fear is like.
- —Guest koicarp
16 going on 17
- Im 16 n have have been getting cold sores since I was about 8 . Idk who gave them to me but, they have done everything in there power to ruien my life. Thanksgiving I had to hide my face from the giant crater on my bottom lip. Wish there was a cure. . It had exposed me to the world of stds and I glad I'm more aware and make sure I keep my self safe but its embarrassing, depressing, and is a shitty disease
- —Guest an non mi us
- The last year I have been dealing with issues that arrived from my husband's untimely death. In the midst of my healing, I fell in love with a great friend of mine. He has been nuthin short of amazing. Someone I could picture moving on with since my husband. We had sex for the first time and started with a condom but didn't finish with one. And we had sex a few other times with no protection. I thought I had an uti and i go to the doctor and she thinks that it is herpes. I lost it. Herpes! How could this be? I spent the day crying but I decided to tell my friend so he could get tested. Once my results came back positive I decided life wasn't over. Plus my friend said he would be there for me. Now we are just waiting on his results but he is taking it hard. I feel bad because I don't know if I got it from him or not. I just hope everything works out because I want to be with him and I refuse to let herpes stop me from living my life to the fullest.
- —Guest NeNe
I Told You So
- "I Told You So". thats all my brothers and family could say to me. That and "This is what you get. Always having unsafe sex"! ..... I have to agree... I met her online of course we met and had sex and of course.... she carried the disease... she knew... but wouldnt tell me. During my outbreaks im always in SO MUCH PAIN!!! The itching and burning drives me crazy... Till this day I hate her for giving me this.... Wish she would have at least told me.... I even tell the one im with before we start dating the im a carrier.... I could never picture myself giving this to someone. I try so hard preventing that from happening. I try to stay postitive tho. Keep in mind there are people out therejust like me/us whom share this pain. YOU are NOT alone! What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. So keep your head up. Live. Joke. Laugh. Love. At the end of the day your still YOU! :-)
- —Guest Johnny
Josh Ramjist MD, living w Genital Herpes
- No one is immune. As a doctor and surgeon in Brooklyn, NY now with Herpes on the Penis, the gift that keeps on giving. Herpes will NEVER go away. Any woman that comes in contact with the herpes ridden penis will get Herpes too. Advice? Herpes can happen to anyone. Learn to Date with Herpes. So sorry to anyone that got HERPES from touching or kissing or coming in contact with the Penis that has Herpes and did not know. SORRY! Must break the cycle of genital herpes. My herpes will never go away and is transmissable even through oral sex
Just Found out on Monday
- I had sex with my new boyfriend and 5 days later I began itching. Thought I had a yeast infection. Went to the doctor. She performed IGG and IGM test. It cams me back positive and I'd contracted HSV 2. The boyfriend is still in denial. He will be tested as soon as he's able to do so within the week. I'm not as upset as I should be but just hoping our lives can continue as they were. I care about him but just not sure what's going to come of us. The relationship JUST began. I am sad.
- —Guest Marie
everyones done things their not proud of
- I just found out on Friday that I have herpes and all I've been thinking about isn't who could've gave it to me but who I could've given it to, because in using the birth control I have (mirana) I didnt use alot of condoms and I've had sex with a really good friend and I don't want to find out that I've given it to him because Il feel like I not only ruined my life but his, hes younger and has so much more to live for than I do. Idk I'm just looking for someone I could talk to about this maybe, none of the research has really helped me
- —Guest Samantha
- I am 18 & going through that time in my life where i like to go out party have fun. In between all that promiscuity happens. I had encountered this guy i likes at a party & after a few drinks resulted in a one night stand. I tried to be protected but unfortunatly the condom broke. A week later i had the worst itch & few symtoms which i have looked up & looks like herpes. I went to a doctor and got a pap smear done all i have to do is get my blood work done. I'm really scared. At this point im hoping for the best but expecting the worst. I know it is my fault & have to deal with the consequences of my actions. If I do test positive all I can do is be positive because life goes on. I hope one day i can find someone who will love me regardless of anything i have & i have faith things will be ok
- —Guest Young & reckless
More to me than Herpes
- I have always had safe sex since I started at age 12. Well at 38, I got herpes. I was depressed for 3 days and thought my sex life was surely over. Didn't think anyone would want me. Then I stopped pitying myself and got over it. I started perusing dating websites for people with herpes, HIV, HPV and anything else imaginable. I then realized life could go on normally. I have told each of my sex partners since about it and they have all been willing to work around that. I then realized how common herpes is and how many people knew more about dealing with it than me. They were even willing to have unprotected sex with me as long as I wasn't having an outbreak. Honesty is always a good policy. I am now married and my husband doesn't have it. A few female friends of mine have it and have never passed it to anyone. There is a good quality of life living with this.
16 and infected.
- I thought the unbearable pain and irritation was a cyst or a yeast infection, but after just a quick look the doctor told me "well it's herpes" immediately I burst into tears, begging her to know any other possibilities, she said well it could be but I'm pretty sure it's herpes. Petrified, she told me to get dressed and she'll give me a minute to calm down. After getting dressed a few minutes she came back into the room and I told her I'd rather just have her tell my mom. Back into her office, as soon as my mom walked in I burst into tears, what's the matter she asked. I couldn't even speak, the doctor told my mom and talked about the prescriptions she wrote me. The tears wouldn't stop, from the doctors office to the car and home my mom upset and yelling, demanded to know who gave this to me, how could I ever tell her a man in his mid 20's who I met online? I've never felt so horrible before in my life. I've spent the rest of this horrible day in my bed, sleeping a bit, then crying a
- —Guest tori
- I have been seeing the same boy now for four months. When we first had sex, he did not mention he had been exposed to herpes. He later told me he had but had not exhibited any symptoms since January. I was blood tested in July and it came back negative for herpes. I didn't think much of it until a few days ago when I felt the impending symptoms of an outbreak. Now I am in a fair amount if pain and discomfort...it hurts to sit and walk and I wake up a lot at night. Four months after first contact! That's how long it took! But I'm not angry at the boy - he didn't know if he had it for sure and when I was tested, it came back negative. My biggest concern now is dealing with the pain and resting my body to help it heal. I'm not ashamed...it just happened. If anyone wants to talk, feel free to email me!
- —Guest Jojo
Do I tell him?
- I found out 3 days ago I have type 2 herpes, I have been with my boyfriend for a year and he either gave it to me or visa versa but I imagine he definitely has it now as we have never had protected sex with each other, my flare up is inbtween my anus and vagina so a condom wouldn't protect him anyway I have not been prescribed with anything to treat it so I just know I have it and that's that!! so what is the point in knowing if they won't treat it!! This is my reasoning for not telling him of course if we break up I will tell him and make out I've just found out myself so he doesn't know I've kept it from him but if I had the choice, I'd rather not know it can't be cured they haven't offered to treat it anyway why would I cause him the emotional pain that I'm going through when there's nothing they can do about it anyway, it's just a miserable thought to live with and think about for the rest of my life, I wish I didn't know and I honestly think he would feel the same as I do!
- —Guest Confused