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- I was diagnosed with HSV 1 just 8 months ago after going to a party with my "friend" and having a little too much to drink. I blacked out and was not only taken advantage of but also had my verginity took from me as well. My parents left for vacation the next day. I started to freak out. How could i tell my parents i was raped? Little did i know at the time that that was the least of my worries. I started to have pain peeing and itchyness. I saw my dr who prescribed me for a yeast infection. The issue grew worse. After two days i became bloated and couldnt pee at all. I went to the er where they told me i had a server uti. I started cipro, the next day i couldnt walk without pain and was serverly blistered. I once again went to my dr and told her everything. I was not only diagnosed with HSV but with PID as well. I called and told my parents and they rushed home. Theve been there for me ever since. But where to go from here?
- —Guest Learning to live
This is not the end!
- I am twenty three years old and I found out about my diagnosis five months ago. I was not sexually active when I went in to get tested, and I only did it because I found out that the guy I was with had multiple partners while we were together. When I found out I had it a flood of emotions came over me and I thought that no one would want to be with me. I was wrong there are people that will view you as worth the risk. I have had this for over a year now eight months of not knowing and five months of knowing. This is not the easiest thing to live with, emotionally it can take a toll at times, but it is livable. I just want to give someone hope in knowing that they are not alone and they're not "dirty, nasty, unclean, unworthy of love," or anyother negative comment that had been thrown your way, or you have thought about yourself. If anything having this has made me more cautious and aware of my choices and body. Also, do not give up on trusting people there are good people in the world
- —Guest Never Give Up
I have herpes
- I am 18 and I was diagnosed with herpes. It started off as HPV but turned into herpes after my first outbreak with the warts. I've slept with other people and so has my partner. Both of us did not practice safe sex. Now I have it. And so does he, but he has no symptoms yet. I felt like crying when my doctor told me. But the reassurance from my partner by telling me that regardless of this I'm still the best thing in the world and nothing, not even a life long STD can change that. I'm feeling better about myself and am trying to look at the positives of this. Instead of crying over the fact that I have this disease and I don't know who to blame.
- —Guest Guest upset
The "Crazy" Girl
- It all started that last summer, I started getting excessively sick and no doctor could pin point the source but the initial current sickness occurring. It will soon be approaching a year now since I have been always ill. Few weeks ago I noticed a sore, went to planned parenthood and within five days it had seemed to go away. Results from it came back negative. Many gyns kept telling me I had vulvodynia. But just this week I got sick with a high fever for four days and then two large lumps have appeared in two different areas. I know its herpes I have been experiencing constant infections and sickness and it all correlates to my genitals. How have no doctors pieced this together?
- —Guest The uneducated girl
like a rocks been lifted off my chest
- like a rocks been lifted off my chestearz now...ive now been engaged seven months gettin married august.....today i came clean with my fiance I was so scared of letting him know that I held it from him being so afraid he would leave me.he took it pretty well and told me that he still loves me and will be with me no matter what . he was very understanding.he's a younger guy 10 years younger than me most men would have went and left.I love them so much he treats me like a queen and was still getting married in august.I just want to say you could still be happy living with this virus.
- —Guest diamond
- I was diagnosed with genital herpes almost 2 years ago. I have never had an outbreak since, and I've come to terms with it. However, I'm single and the last year has been really tough. I've had 3 men that I was dating, and it got to the point where we I felt it was time to disclose. All three of them said it was a deal breaker. I feel so sad. I did not ask for this virus, and I'm tired of people looking at me as a disease instead of a human being. At least I know I have it. The next girl they have sex with could be one of the 80% of people that unknowningly has it. I wish people would educate themselves. I wonder how many men have asked a girl about her cold sore history before she gave him a BJ. My frustration is at an all time high. Someone please tell me it gets better.
- —Guest Bummed
Shy One:Luv Me Again
- I went out with the sweetest guy in the world, at first we used condoms,but I was selfish and took him without a condom, I had been sick and I did not know that I had herpes, especially since my immunity was compromised by the illness and I got herpes and he also got herpes he is a super clean person, so of course he hates me, he will not talk or text or to meet with me...he knows how sorry I am that this happened ,but he will not forgive me, he will maybe in the future but not rite now.It's like i finally found him,then i messed it up... even thou if he had herpes i wud luv him anyway...I just want him to love me again....
- —Guest mari
Calm down and don't scare yourself 3
- Herpes does not ruin your life, the only thing that can do that is what other people think about the condition. When it comes to what other people think they know about the condition it is important to remember that they are wrong. They will have drawn their information from scaremongering media and websites like this which publish the stories of those who are terrified because they have just contracted a so called lifelong 'disease' or by people whose lives have been so 'damaged' by herpes that they have to seek the help of an internet forum. In the vast majority of cases, for the 20% of young people living with herpes, this is not the case. Most people will never know they have it, I know it's not fair that you have symptoms when someone else does not. It's for this reason that if you can't tell someone I would advise you not to beat yourself up about it, I mean would you actually tell someone 'I got cold sores 6 years ago, are you sure you want to have sex with me?' probably not.
- —Guest Jenny
Calm down and don't scare yourself 2
- Furthermore it is worth noting that the herpes simplex virus can lie dormant, this means that you can be in a stable, committed relationship for years and then the condition will present itself. This DOES NOT mean that you or your partner have cheated so pointing the finger is completely unnecessary. The initial infection was a little unpleasant, rather like suffering a bad cold with a UTI and ulcers, however the symptoms soon pass and provided you keep yourself healthy they often don't return. The more unpleasant aspect of the condition is peoples attitude towards it, I have told two potential sexual partners about it in a mature and informative manner only to find them horrified about it. I know that I am an intelligent, good-looking and compassionate person and have realised that their cowardice in failing to accept the condition is their problem not mine. The rejection has knocked me though and I have since been unable to tell sexual partners about it.
- —Guest Jenny
Calm down and don't scare yourself
- I have read through a number of these posts and am absolutely shocked to find how enormously most people are overreacting to this condition. I was diagnosed a year ago, when I got the symptoms I went straight to my doctor (not the internet which is full of scaremongering forums) and was given the facts which are as follows: 1. Most people have no idea that they have genital or oral herpes 2.You can, as I did, contract herpes even when practicing safe sex 3. Herpes is a life long condition but is unlikely to bother you except on a handful of occasions during the first year after contraction. I was given a pack of acyclovir and off I went, aged 18, with herpes and I really didn't mind. I wasn't angry at the boy who gave me it, he probably had no idea he had it and even if he did I could understand why he wouldn't mention it. After-all facing such excessive stigma for a condition which carries far less risk than flu or the common cold is completely unjust.
- —Guest Jenny
never would've ever thought this..
- So my boyfriend had a cut on his penis which was odd but we didnt think much of it because we would have sex with my underwear on it we thought it was it rubbing against his penis so about a week or so goes by i get a bump on the lower region vagina of course didnt think anything of it. Then when i was working i started to feel sick my head burning and my body weak.. basically having the symptoms days go by i get more and more bumps inside and out they're painful the most pain I've ever been in it hurts to walk, pee and sit. Ive been in bed for 3 days not being able to work. I did get checked and i do have genital herpes. I couldn't tell you how much i cried, me and my boyfriend. We cant understand how something like this could happen to us were in shock and it still feels like a nightmare. Im choosing to stick by his side even though i contracted it from him i know he didn't know its both of our faults for not seeing the signs and using protection. We're 19 still very young...
- —Guest valentine
- I left my bf for a "friend", were together for like a month. Always unprotected sex. Last time having sex was a sat morning. I broke up with him next day. The next day, now Monday felt like I had a UTI but worse then ever before and just had one two weeks prior so went to clinic. By the time I got there in evening started feeling burning and itching and noticing bumps that look like ingrown hairs kinda. Doctor sent me for lab work and did swabs. Now waiting like a week for results. What the hell have I done?? He will think I cheated and that's why I broke up with him and I might have to live with this the rest of my life. How can I ever date, have sex or even tell anyone?? Feel like my life is gone, all cause of my stupid move to have unprotected sex with some guy who I didn't even really like. How the hell do I not cry myself to sleep??
- —Guest Joe
It runs in the family!
- He did not have a fever blister when he performed oral sex on me, but 2 weeks later I had the blisters, and I knew immediately what it was. I was devastated. There was another person in that two weeks I had to tell. It was the only time I cried. He was fine, thankfully. The first person I called was my mother. I remember her saying "Oh god, Katie" and I felt tears about to sprout when she continued, "I should have told you that I had it." Turns out my mom and aunt have it. Everyone I knew reacted well. I didn't have sex for a long time. I gave BJs though. I didn't want to have sex with anyone who did not have long-term previous knowledge. Well, less then 6 months later I have had protected sex! It was a one-night stand with a high school friend (21 year old college senior currently), but I have been quite open about my diagnosis and he knew for about a month. Mom says she never had issues. Herpes isnt shameful. Its like getting chicken pox. Hell, same general virus! You can be loved
- —Guest Life goes on
stressed, guilty, ashamed...
- I have been married to my husband for 3 years. The second year after giving birth to our son was really tough for us emotionally we had our ups and downs. For a while we fought what seemed to be daily and there was a time where the fights got so bad I just wanted to leave. A new neighbor had just moved in around the time we weren't doing so well. Of course what I never thought would happen happened. We had an affair for about 4 months. I fell into another man's arms in my time of need and realized quickly it was only an escape from reality when I soon hated myself and regretted every time we slept together. My husband never knew and still doesn't know but the last time my neighbor and I had sex I noticed sores and painful bumps all over my nipples. It's been a few weeks and they still hurt and haven't gone away. The man denies he has anything but I've noticed every now and then hed get coldsores on his mouth. I will soon make a doctors appt to test myself for herpes. Im devastated
- —Guest Melissa
It is not a big deal
- Honestly this disease can form anywhere on your body... It could be a pimple or herpes who's to tell the difference? It's not really harmful to anyone and science is getting close to a better solution than what we have now. I just looked up pictures of oral herpes and I have it in the back of my throat and on my tongue for certain and I've had it since I was very young! Just remember how common it is and treat it like a pimple. They're basically the same thing and both are transmittable and they suck but who really cares? Take medication and medicated creams but other than that do not worry or blame yourself, after all someone had to have it before you had it. Nobody is expecting you to abstain from human contact for the rest of your life :)
- —Guest Guest Jules